What is your experience with manifesting?
Your thoughts will create your life. Seriously, our thoughts are the most powerful tool we have in this life. Ever heard the saying, "Be careful what you wish for?"
Unintentional Manifesting
Just recently I have begun to read about the Law of Attraction, manifesting, and mindset. I had a realization that I had been doing these things for years without intention.
There is a polarity in everything in life. For example: happy and sad, rich, and poor, extra pounds and too little pounds. It is the contrast that helps us clarify what we want in life. There is a stark difference in what you desire versus what you do not desire your life to look like. Am I right? Be sure to leave a comment on your thoughts. Let’s keep the conversation going.
So How Do You Attract What You Want?
The problem is, that it is so simple that many people are trapped into not believing it is possible. I don't want to talk too much in this post about my eldest son, Daniel, but an overview of our situation can bring light to manifesting and the Law of Attraction. I was raped when I was 14 years old and gave birth to a gorgeous, healthy baby boy in June of 1987 when I was 15 years old. I opted to place that baby boy (Anthony Michael) for adoption. To self-preserve, I shut that part of my life out, only sharing with a select few as the relationship warranted.
I Manifested My Son Back Into My Life
Fast forward to 2020, my youngest son was turning 18 and I felt it was time that he knew about his brother. The thought of being in a position where I was forced to rapid-fire off the entire story to both my boys turned my stomach. It would be an enormous burden for to them unload so much emotion all at once. To be honest, I had no intention of ever finding my son first. This was not because I did not love him immensely, but rather because I did. My fear was he might not know he was adopted, and I would turn his life upside down.
Well, I had a difficult conversation with my youngest, Zackary, in February of 2020. Spilled all the beans and gave him the uncut version of my life. Guess what happened in September 2020? Daniel found me and Zackary. Thirty-three years of me not breathing a word about him but maybe 4 times until the day I told Zackary. Then, seven short months later he is in our lives. Zackary, my husband, ex-husband, and I began talking about Daniel so much that we attracted him!
The Law of Attraction is real. This is just one story I have come to realize about my life that was me manifesting the outcome. It is real and it is simple.
If It Is So Easy To Manifest The Life You Want, Why Do So Many Live The Life They Try To Avoid?
The tricky part for most of us is that we all tend to focus on the "not haves." If you are focusing on telling your boss that you have a "headache" to avoid work for the day, you are telling the universe that you want a headache. If you are focusing on not having enough money to pay your bills, you are telling the universe that you do not have money, and it is giving you exactly that. What you focus on is your point of attraction and what you will create more of.
Your Mindset Leads You on Your Journey
The more you dig in and read about the Law of Attraction, manifesting, and mindset, the clearer it becomes that we are our life managers. Sit down and seriously go over your life. Dig in and look at HOW situations in your life came about. The deeper you go, the harder it is to deny that you manifest every step of your life. If you are like I was, you are just living without paying too much attention. Stop what you are doing, refocus your energy, and start paying attention. You will begin to get front parking spots, the dress you have been eyeing will go on super discount sale, and your puppy will finally stop chewing on your shoes . . . . it works in EVERY area of life!!
My Journey from a Bird's Eye View
When I was younger, I had a great job and life was steadily getting better until my parents were in a car accident on Christmas day, 2002. My youngest son was 6 months old, and it was my 31st birthday. Yes, I am a Christmas baby. Although my brother died of alcoholism when I was 15, losing my dad was the first real loss I experienced as an adult. It took 2 years from the day of the accident, but it is what eventually killed him. Those 2 years were extremely trying on my family. Watching the strongest person you have ever known wilt away into nothing damages your soul. Especially when it is a parent. Everything seemed to unravel from that point. I look back now, and I can vividly see when I began the negative spiral until the day I stopped that spiral in July of 2007.
My Road to Mindset Recovery (Even Though I Didn’t Know It)
In the summer of 2007, I asked my son's daddy (who I had divorced the year earlier) to take our boy for a few extra days. Fortunately, we have stayed beyond civil, raising our son together as a family despite the divorce. We were living in Florida at the time, and I was dating Bobby (my husband.) Bobby was in Indiana working at the time and honestly, we were extremely rocky. I take credit for that too. I was so unhappy inside that it affected every corner of my life. I just needed to get away. I hopped into my car and drove North to the Smoky Mountains. Somewhere around the Waynesville area, I was on the Blue Ridge Skyway, stopping for a short break when I had a spiritual moment that brought light into my life again.
I was sitting on a rock beside a stream coming down the mountain. Out of nowhere about 12 bright blue and black butterflies landed within inches of my toes. When Daddy was at the very end of his life, he would talk in his sleep about baseball, cats, and butterflies while I sat by his side. I adopted a cat (Mr. Riley,) the day my dad passed away. Zackary played baseball as a child. And here I am on a roadside along with 12 blue butterflies. I was overwhelmed with every emotion humanly possible all at once, sitting there by myself. Quite frankly, I feel blessed that I was alone so that I could fully absorb what was happening to me. My daddy and the universe conspired with Mother Nature to bring me back to life. To show me that life is ever evolving and most importantly, that I held the reins. I will always remember how I felt at that moment. Although hard to explain, the word peaceful seems appropriate.
Consistency Is Key
Being consistent in what you are thinking about yourself, and your life, is key. This takes work, a lot of work. I must admit, I did fall off the wagon but, in my defense, I still had not realized I was attracting my life. I got so tied up in taking care of my mom, my youngest child, and my husband who had become close to death ill that I forgot about myself. After my mom passed away in 2015, my son advanced to an age where he did not need me so much and my husband was blessed with a transplant in 2017, I sort of slowly “woke up,” if you will. I have been regaining myself and power over the last few years and I will tell you, it feels INCREDIBLE to be doing so!
Things That Have Helped Me Along the Way
Books
I read Amanda Frances' book, "Rich As F*CK: More Money Than You Know What to Do With" in 2020. Reading this book was my first solid encounter with acknowledging the Law of Attraction, manifesting, and mindset. I began to see that my thoughts were forming my life good, bad, or otherwise! Remember, "Be careful what you wish for!" What you think, you will attract and become.
Audio
I am hooked on listening to YouTube videos while I work. I listen to books written by Napoleon Hill, and Dale Carnegie, a series on mindset growth by Bob Proctor and Tony Robbins. There are just too many to list honestly. I promise, there is no shortage of confidence-building support on YouTube these days!
Affirmations and Journaling
I have begun to create printable affirmation cards that I cut and keep in my wallet, tape to my mirror, tape to my work monitor, save as screen savers for my phone and iPad, and on and on. I have also begun to journal. It is more like a stream of consciousness. There is something so helpful to me about “seeing” myself on paper. I cringe often but going back and reading things I wrote this time last year, or sometimes even just a few weeks earlier is empowering. If you do not write a journal, you need to start. Habit tracking is also a key to maintaining personal and professional consistency in your life. I use habit tracking not just for tasks but also for thoughts. It has helped me work through eradicating thought patterns that I found damaging.
Conclusion
Do not lose sight of:
- You must be in the best mindset to be helpful to others who need you the most.
- You are the manager of your life.
- You determine your life’s outcome regardless of how you believe you will get there.
Ultimately, whatever steps you take (or do not take) will dictate your journey.